Sexuality

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Straight or Gay, What We Feel And Why
............................................................... ....Terminology
For more terms and definitions please visit our "What am I" page.

...............................................................................Confused Pleasure
For the transsexual, confused pleasure is what we get from our sexual body parts.  Prior to hormone therapy,
everything "feels" inappropriate somehow, uncomfortable, like something just isn't "right".   Meaning, that what
we expect to feel and what we actually feel are two different things.  Taking hormone therapy seems to stop
some body sensations and enhance others, making our sexual sensations feel more "appropriate" for what our
brains tell us we should be experiencing.   

........................................................Confused Sexual Preference
Not what they wanted to feel.  Confusion sets in: do we date what is opposite our body or what is opposite our brain?  Our sexuality is
not what we wanted to feel. Our sexual preference seems to be in flux till we finish transition.



Other examples of sexual confusion:
An FTM who identifies as a heterosexual female (woman drawn to men) prior to transition and then identifies as a homosexual male
(man drawn to men) after transition.
An FTM who identifies as butch lesbian (woman drawn to women) prior to transition and then identifies as straight male (man drawn to
women) after transition.
An MTF who identifies as heterosexual male (man drawn to women) prior to transition and then identifies as heterosexual female
(woman drawn to men) after transition.
An MTF who identifies as heterosexual male (man drawn to women) prior to transition and then identifies as homosexual female
(woman drawn to women) after transition.
Then there are those who identify bisexual before or after transition.


..................................................How We See Our Sexual Preference
..............................................We see homosexuality and heterosexuality from the perspective of our brain gender.  We feel we
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........................are male or female despite what our body is.  So to date someone with the same perspective on life
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.............. would be a homosexual relationship.  However our bodies would be the opposite gender and so to
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...................the rest of the world we would appear heterosexual.  


..................................Our Sex Drive and Behaviour Before and After Hormones
rather promiscuous in their sexual behavior during and after transition.  For some the temptation of their new found "sexual rather
promiscuous in their sexual behavior during and after transition.  For some the temptation of their new found "sexual power" is like a
drug. It can lead like a drug. It can lead them to an extreme, like prostitution, escort service, BDSM and other sexually explicit life
styles.  This is not the rule for most transsexual/transgendered people.
rule for most transsexual/transgendered people.


For the female to male, there is little sexual experience in the body gender.  Most ftm's "act" in the male gender role with a lesbian
partner or unknowing straight female partner.  More often ftm's that do marry as a female role can end up bisexual or homosexual after
transition.  Meaning they were okay with the homosexual role before transition.

......................................................Transsexual Teenage Sexuality
Puberty is a nightmare for a transsexual person.  At puberty your body has betrays you as it changes opposite to what you thought it
should be.  If you are not allowed to express your internal gender, your mind disconnects from your body.  We become a "head" with
no body.  In many ways our emotional growth seems to stop at puberty.  We tend to be out of the loop of normal sexual behavior as a
teenager.

When we start transition, our emotional sexual growth begins where it left off, at puberty.  We think and act at times as foolishly
sexually as a teenager would.  This often makes us quite a spectacle till we mature emotionally.  This behaviour also opens the door to
those who would prey on us..  Either in hate crimes, or those who would exploit us for their own sexual gratification.  We call them
Tranny Chasers.

.................................................................Sexual Predators
We are easy targets for tranny chasers and sexual predators.  We long to be affirmed in the correct gender role to be seen as the man or
a woman we feel we are.  The predator knows they can manipulate us by affirming our new gender and so get what they want from
us, either voluntarily or by taking advantage of us.  Many of us were victims of a sexual predators as children.  Perhaps by those who
viewed us as weak and confused or easily manipulated because we had no healthy boundaries.  Many of us have had our boundaries  
stripped away by well meaning parents who try to "force" us into "correct" gender behaviour and so destroyed any normal boundaries
we set up for ourselves.  We learn we have no rights and must comply with what others want from us, no matter what.  If boundaries
are not dealt with in therapy so that we start making healthy boundaries before transition, we are more likely to fall prey to predators of
any kind.

.............................................................Genetics and Biology
We hunger to be validated in our brain gender, to be a "real" man or a "real" woman and fit in with society.  We do not want to be this
"odd thing" a transsexual, constantly trying to defend our gender to others and validate our gender to ourselves. We want more than
anything to "be" correct genetically and only have a birth defect that caused our bodies to "appear" the opposite gender.

Are we genetic males and females that just expressed the genetic code wrong?  Barring an intersexed condition, if you can reproduce,
your body is the genetic gender it appears to be.  We know this because the only way to get reproductive organs, ovaries, testes etc, is
to have appropriate genetic code for them.

XX encodes for female reproductive organs = the uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes.

XY encodes for testes, prostate gland and vas deferens.

Surprisingly being able to grow a penis and scrotum, or a clitoris and vagina are not dependent on the genetic code, but rather on the
hormones the fetus is exposed to during a specific time in development.  (This kind of condition would fall under an "intersexed" lable.)

.................................................................Our Admirers
I am a firm believer in the idea, that there is someone for everyone.  Proving that, there are many different kinds of people that seem
interested in us as partners.  The categories seem to include:
  1. Individuals who don't know what we are and fall for us in the new gender role.
  2. Other trans or gender queer who don't yet know what they are and find themselves attracted to us.
  3. Those seeking to transition and think they need to be with someone who has transitioned.
  4. Men or women who like the boobs and pole on the same individual or flat chest and a hole on the same individual.
  5. Those who like the female body but the male persona, or the male body and female persona.
  6. Guys who are secretly gay and feel that dating a male to female makes them look straight, but they can still be gay.
  7. People who know and don't care.
Welcome.  This subject will stir much interest for a variety of reasons.  
This is simply a sanitized dialog about things we experience in the sexual realm as transgendered human beings.  
Likely you will find our experiences revealing.